The White Pages

The Little Things August 11, 2008

Filed under: Uncategorized — perfectlywhite @ 11:33 pm

He leaves the shower curtain open after he showers.

She never restarts the “trip” button after she fills the car up.

He empties his pockets on the counter (table, sofa..) and leaves it there.

She pushes me to the edge of the bed every night.  (Insert – I’m just trying to cuddle!)

He towel dries his hair and doesn’t comb it back down – and looks like a New Kid on the Block.

She leaves the ignition in a spot where it dings over and over again every time the car door opens.

He leaves food wrappers on the counter instead of putting them in the trash.

She puts dirty dishes in my clean dish water.

He could play Playstation for hours.

She is paranoid about locking the doors and turning off the stove. 

He thinks our apartment is a tool box.

She prefers “cute” to “efficient.”

He will wear any shirt with his camoflauge shorts – even if it looks hideous. 

She makes up details when she tells stories. 

She pops my zits. 

He makes me breakfast in bed.

She kisses me every morning before I go to work. 

He loves to brush my hair.

She wraps her arm around me and gently kisses my neck.

He got funnier when we got married.

She pays the bills.

He also got more attractive.

She reads aloud from whatever book she is into- at parts where she is intrigued, fascinated…

He discovered crushed red pepper and puts it in everything – it’s adorable.

She makes glorious food.

He still opens the car door for me – any door for that matter.

She lays her head on my chest.

He’s learning how to communicate when and why he’s upset.

She makes sex jokes.

He goes to every length he can to love me better.

She stilll has The Dimple.

He reads Psalms to me before we go to bed.

She would beat people up for me.

He always makes sure to kiss me goodnight and say how much he loves me.

She returns the kiss and the ‘I love you’s’.


Vow Violation August 9, 2008

Filed under: Uncategorized — perfectlywhite @ 10:12 pm

I was a bad wife the other day.  It had been a long day at work and I was sitting on the couch researching natural cures.  If you’ve never looked into the natural health movement, I highly suggest it.  It’s fascinating stuff.  I mean, it makes sense that, since God created us, we should be utilizing God created substances, not fakey, human created substances.  Anyway, I was engrossed.  I heard a big noise from the bathroom.  First thought – Caleb dropped the body wash – which he’s done several times on my head.  Second thought – the towel rack fell.  So I yelled “are you okay?” to which there was no reply.  For some reason, I took this as a good sign and continued my engrossment.  Ten minutes later my dejected husband walks out of the bathroom and says “thanks for coming to help me!”  Apparently he had stepped into the shower, slipped, fallen backwards out of the shower, grabbed the shower curtain for support and continued to fall, bringing the entire curtain down with him.  And I thought he dropped the soap.  I apologized profusely for hours.  And I made him a yummy dinner.



Filed under: Uncategorized — perfectlywhite @ 10:11 pm

I think vows are kind of a big deal.  Which is why I think writing your vows is kind of a big deal.  Definition of vow: a solemn promise pledge, or personal commitment.  Did you catch the personal commitment part?  What could be better than publicly pronouncing your  personal promise to one another in front of all of the people you love – all of whom can then hold you to said standards.  I will always, always remember the moment we said our vows to each other.  We were both so sure and so confident in what we were saying.  My prayer is that we all take our vows, whether marriage related or otherwise, seriously.  I’m reminded me of a certain Snow Patrol song (yes please!)- “Those three words are said too much, but not enough.”   Instead of throwing around promises of love, our goal is to loyally adhere to each and every promise made. Here are our vows (well, mine for now – I have to find Caleb’s somewhere) – please encourage us to strive to honor them daily, as we will do for you and yours!  Oh, and I would also like to say that we both wrote them the morning of the wedding, thinking the other had finished their’s weeks earlier. 😉 I would not recommend doing this, but, hey, it’s from the heart. 



It is a beautiful thing to look back five years and laugh at our 15 year old selves.  It is a testimony to the divine work of God that we are here today, and that we have grown closer through trials and tears.  I am in awe of the man you have become.  At 15 I knew you were kind, had beautiful eyes, and made me laugh.  At 21 I know that you are the most genuine, selfless, joyful man I have ever known, and your character and strength have carried me through so much.  It is because of you that I have begun to understand the unconditional love of God.  You have laid down your own desires and wants to lift me up countless times, and it is in these acts that I most understand the sacrificial love of Jesus.  My desire as your wife is to do the same thing for you.  I desire to love you as Jesus loves you, to serve you as Jesus serves you, and to comfort you as Jesus comforts you.  I desire to know the deepest parts of you more and more everyday.  Most of all, I desire the two of us to become one flesh that runs passionately after the God that has given us this beautiful gift of love.  Thank you, Jesus, for being the center of our lives.  My prayer is that we are always in a passionate, steadfast relationship with you.

I often wonder what crazy ride we’ve gotten ourselves into, because I know God often has plans we could never dream of – but how boring would life be if we relied on our own control? 


Husband & Wife-dom

Filed under: Uncategorized — perfectlywhite @ 8:54 pm

As of two days ago, Caleb and I have been married for two months.  We decided the first week we were married we wanted to keep track of that ever-ominous “first year” of marriage.  it’s mostly to provide insight to our -what seems like thousands- of engaged friends (since we are full of maturity and wisdom) – or is it mostly to look back on and be glad we survived?!  Either way, our desire is to provide a window into the messy, not so picture-perfect, grace-filled joy that permeates the lives of two imperfect (made perfect) people with a growing desire to love the way Christ loves.