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Trying to understand… November 22, 2008

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I hate it when Caleb leaves.  It’s dumb.  This weekend marks the second in November that he has departed our cozy little nook of an apartmet.  The first was to lead a retreat – very noble – and he learned lots and grew lots and I’m glad he went.  And I lived through it (thanks to visiting family!).  Now he’s gone to Memphis.  To eat fried chicken.  Seriously – it is much harder for me to be happy about this.  However, he’s been so excited all week.  He had  a t-minus countdown going last Sunday.  Tonight him and 5 other buddies jumped in a van, will drive overnight, will get “Gus’s World Famous Fried Chicken” and will drive back through the night tomorrow and return Sunday.  I am not a guy.  I do not understand why this is fun – but I do know that he needs time to be a guy with other guys and adventure and man talk and be naked and smoke cigars and drink a beer and kill animals and encourage his friends and learn from them and grow closer to God.  But that does not mean I am happy about it.  Not until he gets back anways.  Then I’ll be glad.


Tagged November 10, 2008

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Mrs. Emily Hulling tagged us so here we go! Oh, and I’m no good at favorites because they change daily – Grandma Jan once sent me a get to know you survey so they could plan a game for our weding shower three whole months before the actual shower.  On the day of the shower, everybody had to guess from a list of things what my favorites were and whoever got the most right won – and I decided to play too.  I missed three.  And lost. 

1.Where is your cell phone? charger
2. Your significant other? unconditional

3. Your hair? disarray
4. Your mother? home
5. Your favorite thing? books (which was my first answer) husband (which is my answer after I read Calebs)

6. Your dream last night? pregnant
7. Your favorite drink? margarita
8. Your dream/goal? growth
9. What room are you in? living
10. Your fear? disappointment
11. Where do you want to be in 6 years? des moines
12. Where were you last night? family
13. Something that you aren’t? witty
14. Muffins? blueberries
15. Wish list item? Mac
16. Last thing you did? studied
17. What are you wearing? pajamas

18. Your TV? football
19. Your pets? nonexistent
20. Friends? priceless
21. Your life? whole
22. Your mood? fine

23. Missing someone? Kristin 
24. Your car? Deloris
25. Something you’re not wearing? socks
26. Your favorite store? bookstore
27. Your favorite color? turqouise
28. When is the last time you laughed? today
29. Last time you cried? yesterday

and Caleb’s…

1.Where is your cell phone? pants
2. Your significant other? lovely
3. Your hair? clean
4. Your mother? missed
5. Your favorite thing? wifey
6. Your dream last night? buh
7. Your favorite drink? newcastle
8. Your dream/goal? discernment
9. What room are you in? living
10. Your fear? failing
11. Where do you want to be in 6 years? somewhere
12. Where were you last night? nebraska
13. Something that you aren’t? fake
14. Muffins? blueberry
15. Wish list item? car
16. Last thing you did? bathed
17. What are you wearing? shorts
18. Your TV? large
19. Your pets? missing
20. Friends? swell
21. Your life? moving
22. Your mood? chill
23. Missing someone? mommy
24. Your car? dirty
25. Something you’re not wearing? snowpants
26. Your favorite store? golfwarehouse
27. Your favorite color? red
28. When is the last time you laughed? today
29. Last time you cried? years


Filed under: Uncategorized — perfectlywhite @ 3:00 am

Caleb here,

A little bit nervous; first one.  Here we go.  I love my wife.  Period.  She has extended me grace in a lot of ways; one way in particular, she has expressed to me how she knows how important it is for me to do things with guys from the dorm I spent three years in- retreats, weekend road trips to Memphis for Gus’s Chicken, etc.  This summer in working concrete, I had to go on an over-night trip (two nights, three weeks after being married).   A couple of weeks ago, WEST Hall had its annual fall retreat.  Finding out the night before it was to happen, I asked Kari if I could go; she said yes, and that was that.  Time away from your husband/ wife is not easy or fun, yet sometimes you have to. 

Well, during these times we have had nights apart from each other, we would try and make a point of sending text messages to each other letting the other know they were on our minds, and missing them, la di da da, so on and so forth.

I have been helping out with the New Hope E. Free youth group since the beginning of the year, and I, along with two other college leaders, were in charge of planning the youth group retreat which would stretch from Friday afternoon to Sunday afternoon.  Another whole weekend sleeping by myself!  Not my favorite thing, believe you me.  The other leaders and I decided that the theme of our retreat (which we called “Fall Attack”- b/c no one knew what we were retreating from…story for another time) would be ‘solitude and spending time with God’.   Well, even though  am a leader, I was still supposed to go and spend time in the presence of God during our time of solitude.  Lately, I have been interested in getting to know more about Jesus- asking who Jesus is; what has He done for me; what is He doing in me, kind of things.  During my time, I spent time ‘adventuring’ in the woods, making my own paths, coming back to an established one, and venturing out again.  I spent a bit of time reading through John’s gospel.  When I got back and was reflecting on my time, I realized that I had just walked the entire time with Jesus!  It was the longest amount of time I had spent with Him in a long while, and it was incredible.  I don’t feel like any new revelations came to me, I just felt that I was in the presence of my Savior for a long time, and couldn’t help but be enthralled by Him.

How does this relate to Kari and I?  Well, there is this ‘list of priorities’ that a couple, especially a Christian couple, ought to have; it goes something like this:  1.  God/ Jesus; 2.  husband/ wife; 3. 4….  It is true, I missed/ miss her when I am not with her; I told her when I got back that I missed her in a ‘different’ way.  What was awesome for me to see, (and I hope the same was true for her as well) was the first time I think I had put my relationship with Jesus above my relationship with Kari- without losing all the love I have for her.  It is truly a ‘changing’ experience.